Grrrr…
Know what? I’m pissed off. Really pissed off. Today I found out that I cannot live with another person, to whom I’m not related in a way, in the same apartment. I simply can’t. Yes, I’m aware that everyone has problems with room/flat mates, but I can’t stand it anymore!!!
I’m a difficult person. I like to put things in a place and I expect them to be there when I need them. I have MY things. I have MY way of arranging them. I have MY ideas of how 2 people living in the same apartment should behave. And what’s more, MY things are only MY THINGS!
Some of my flat mate’s friends from Baia Mare are visiting her. They are 3 people, in a room smaller than mine. Oh, excuse me: they are 5 people, if we count her and her university colleague, which I don’t know why is staying here. Thus, 2 of them have to sleep in my room. Thus, I don’t have any privacy. I mean, her friends from BM are ok and all, but wtf did she invite so many if she knew she hadn’t so much space in her room?
Of course they made something to eat: French fries with fried meat. And they used MY oil without asking me [yeah, I want back that 1/2L of oil you used] and they fried the meat in MY frying pan for frying only potatoes!!!!!!!! Yeah, at least they washed the dishes. But when I wanted to make myself some spaghetti and entered the kitchen and saw all those pots and frying pans and stuff all over the place, I was on the point of strangulating someone!!! MY KITCHEN!!!! Did you use it? Fine! But don’t leave it that way!!! Clean it and leave it as you had initially found it!!! I feel like MY kitchen has been violated! MY KITCHEN!!!
Ok… I’ve got to keep calm… I’ve got to take a deep breath… moving on. When I entered the bathroom the small carpet we have on the floor was rolled up [why?!]. There was water in the bathtub and the toilet wasn’t sufficiently flushed. Come on!!!!! At least have a little decency!
I really think I’m paranoid and complicated. I can’t stand people messing around with MY things, touching them, using them. I love my apartment and I try to take care of it as best as I know and when things like this happen, I feel like killing someone! It’s MY house, do you understand???? MY HOUSE! I feel I’m acting like a total bitch right now, but I can’t help it. I want my place to be as it was. I don’t mind people coming to visit her, but stay the fuck away from my things and if you can’t help it, at least try and arrange them the way you had found them.
I’m so very curious to see if my flat mate will buy me oil, clean my frying pan, arrange the carpet in the bathroom and the things in the kitchen. Oh, I’m so very curious! Oh, and I don’t care if you told me to eat with you or if you told me to go out into town with you. I really, really don’t care!
Later edit: flush the bloody toilet!!!!!! And KNOCK before entering!!!!!!!!!!
One can easily see you’re an only child. Sharing problems are one of the basic simptomps. Don’t worry, I’m one too and I have had my part of “You spoiled brat, you don’t know how to share even a slice of bread!”. Well I don’t care and you shouldn’t either, that’s who we are and if one doesn’t like it, too bad for him/her.
Only childs rule ! \m/
Go Ionuca ! Kill `em all !
I’m not an only child, but I would hate to live with a roommate…in fact, I never have. Other than with a boyfriend for 2 years, but I had been with him for 2 years before that…so that situation was a little different. I didn’t mind living with him. But I could never have a roommate other than family or a long-term relationship. The things that you described…I would be very angry about too. That’s not cool that they used your stuff without asking. That’s really not cool she invited friends in the first place knowing there was not enough space and they’d have to sleep in your room! How rude.
You all are lucky! I am one of 3… and currently sharing a house with 4 other housemates!! Drives me nuts! Room mates using your stuff is normal Rainbow! You need to make it VERY clear to them that it is not all right for them to touch your stuff or use any of it without first asking you! If you do not… well you are going to end up shopping for two instead of just yourself!
I can relate to this so very well, my home is MY home, that’s the reason why I don’t even want someone helping me with house stuff, I can’t stand the thought of someone touching all my things……
But I guess you must talk to your roomate and tell her about the meaning of words such as “rudeness” and “privacy”.
Yes, I am an only child. Yes, I am spoiled. Yes, I don’t like to share. But I would NEVER EVER take something that doesn’t belong to me without asking for it first! NEVER!
And I find it hard to talk to her. I guess I just don’t have the guts to tell her what bothers me 8-|
But I have to admit that she cleaned the bathroom and washed my frying pan. Now all she has to is to clean the cooker, wash the floor in the kitchen, buy me back my oil and NEVER EVER do such things again
Oh I know, I think it comes with not sharing, the fact we don’t mess with other people things
And I agree, you really should talk to her. Otherwise, I bet she’ll do it again and you’ll stay silent until one day when you’re gonna explode. And it will be much worse than if you’d have done it now. So you must find some guts laying around… just use it!
ok, this is how another only child deals with the horror of sharing the same vital space: the first thing we did, after a couple of months of getting used to one another, was to lay out some ground rules: you don’t use my stuff unless you ask and i don’t use your stuff unless i ask, we buy things like sugar and oil and water and juice toghether, we don’t invite friends over if the other has an exam or needs to get up very early in the morning and we take turns in cleaning.
trust me 
you really should lay out some ground rules instead of keeping everything inside. you can’t expect her to act according to your expectations if she doesn’t have a clue what those are! and one other important thing is to learn that living with another person means having to compromise. you might have to accept some thing you don’t really like.
Anyway… talking is the key
Guys, I think she read my blog :(( Oh, boy!!! No I really feel like a total bitch. Damn! Damn! Damn!
That’s another fine use of the benefits of blogging! You no longer have to talk to her. From now on, you only have to write it down here… and maybe look for another appartment, one only for yourself?
:)) I simply love this comment! Well, it is MY apartment. I really is! I can show you the papers if you don’t believe me
I’m an only child and I know how you feel. I haven’t lived with another person since I moved out of the dorms in 2002. I could live with a boyfriend I think but I wouldn’t want to try it until we had been dating for at least a year. Yeah you aren’t being a bitch, that’s just rude, screw her!
ionuca,
who cares if she read it? really?? and please do not feel like a bitch because you got upset because of these things!!! room/housmates can be real rude sometimes. personally i have been trying to give one of mine away for months now, but no one will take him.
Keep expressing yourself as YOU need to! Do not worry if she reads it or not! Lastly, do not forget to smile today sweet Rainbow!!
i’m not an only child and i’m very teritorial with my space
i don’t mind it when people touch my stuff, but i do need my personal time and space and i get pissed off when i can’t have it. that’s why iot’s better that i’m moving out on my own, even if it means i’ll have to spend more money. MY bathroom, mine all mine! i got so used to having my own bathroom, i don’t know how it would feel like to share it :/
i agree with you!